This intended victim is a brave fighter to stop an attempted sexual assault against her. This is a great and real-life example of how you practice Active Self Protection and stop a sexual assault of this magnitude!
Original video and news story of the sexual assault attempt: https://get-asp.com/qxrz
What does this brave woman teach us about defending ourselves against a sexual assault?
- Compliance does not at all guarantee your safety in the face of a sexual assault. We know that sexual assault victims who fight back are no more likely to be harmed than if they don’t fight back, and they are less likely to be raped. (study here: https://get-asp.com/601c if you need proof on that) Compliance does not guarantee safety, as placing your safety in the hands of someone willing to commit a felony is a terrible idea. This victim fought back and her outcome was certainly no worse than if she hadn’t. Kudos to her!
- Evil exists in our world, and no amount of wishing it away does so. Evil people do evil things, and good people must be ready and willing to stand between them and innocent people and do enough violence to stop them definitively. No amount of negotiation will make truly evil people change their ways; only those willing and able to stop them who use attitude, skills, and plan effectively can. This sexual assault didn’t stop because the intended victim negotiated with her attacker; it stopped because she fought back.
- It’s dark for half the day, and bad guys of all kinds love to launch ambushes from the dark. That means, as a self-defender, that part of having good situational awareness involves keeping a flashlight on your person. That flashlight doesn’t have to be crazy tacticool and shouldn’t be firearm-mounted, because its purpose is to help you see at night to give you better awareness of any potential threats far before they can hurt you. A VERY compact option for under $20 that runs on AAs is this Streamlight: http://amzn.to/1U9S39H and I carry this 1000 lumen Fenix: http://amzn.to/1S73jjb which is rechargeable and has multiple modes of brightness. A middle ground that I have used very effectively is this Olight: http://amzn.to/29htS3q. I highly recommend a flashlight for everyone, simply as an awareness tool at night. I am not saying this sexual assault couldn’t have happened if she was scanning with a flashlight, but at the very least she would have presented herself as a far less inviting target, and would have had a small kubotan in her hand to stop the sexual assault more effectively.
- To defend against a sexual assault, you need emotional fitness. Emotional fitness is defined as the ability to internally represent a situation or predicament to yourself in such a way as to make you strong and able to successfully defend yourself against it. Repeated practice and thousands of reps of sparring and self-defense absolutely build your emotional fitness to be able to handle whatever comes your way. This intended victim had great emotional fitness to fight off the sexual assault and not freeze in the moment.
- As well-meaning as police officers are, they cannot protect you from danger. As the old adage says, “When seconds count, the police are only minutes away!” You—and ONLY you—can protect yourself from danger when it comes upon you. A police response time of 5 minutes is considered perfectly acceptable in most suburban departments, and times upwards of 30 minutes can be the norm in rural areas! You need to have the attitude, skills, and plan to protect yourself from a sexual assault because the police simply can’t. This intended victim had to be the primary agent in her own rescue.
- Successful self-defense against many attacks involves a counter-ambush, where the victim (or bystander, as this student was) finds the right opportunity to seize the initiative from the active killer and launch an ambush of their own. That involves thinking and knowing your own strengths and skill set, and being ready to strike the attacker when your opportunity for counter-ambush comes. It also means not allowing the attacker to see that attack until it’s launched.
- One significant strategy that works (if you don’t have tools or skills to mount a more effective defense) to keep from being taken to a second location in a kidnapping or sexual assault is to drop to the ground and use your legs to keep the kidnapper from moving you. Nothing good happens at the second location, so dropping to the ground in a sexual assault and then using your legs to fight your attacker can keep you from being moved! The way I talk about it is this: have you ever tried to pick up a toddler who didn’t want to be moved? It’s TOUGH! Now think about doing it to an adult. Flop down, stay on your back, and use your legs to kick the attacker off. Jiu jitsu practitioners use this strategy when grounded pretty routinely.
- As one of my martial arts mentors, Skip Hancock, is fond of saying, the ground must be your friend and not your enemy. You must know how to fight on the ground and not panic if the fight goes to the ground! You must have skills from bottom position, from top position, and in the scramble. You must be able to regain your feet and fight from wherever you find yourself. Too many fights require this skill to ignore it! This is doubly so of a sexual assault, which by definition will be close in and almost always on the ground.
Attitude. Skills. Plan.
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